I’m a huge fan of independence and standing up for what you this is best for you. Making decisions about your life based on what you think is best and not always giving in to your partner is the way to go. Having said that, when you enter a serious relationship, or even marriage, the decisions you make will now have an effect on the other person’s life as well.
Contrary to what you may have heard, consulting your partner makes you a considerate person. Rather than being completely self serving you’re choosing to involve your life mate doesn’t make you weak or co-dependent; it makes you smart.
Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:
Birth control
Yes, it’s your body, but before you make a decision that will affect your ability to conceive, you should definitely discuss it with your partner. Whether it’s starting or stopping contraception or choosing a more permanent solution like tubal ligation, your partner will has a vested interest that you need to respect.
Leftover food
You know, I wouldn’t think that my boyfriend wants to eat the last three bites of Chinese takeout from 3 days ago but the minute I throw it out? Oh man, he wants it. He wants it so badly, you would think it was golden lo mein. The bottom line: if it’s not yours, always ask before throwing it away.
Major purchases
Even if your last name is Rockefeller or Hilton, running your plans for big ticket items like cars, houses and boats past your significant other is just good relationship strategy.
Bringing home new family members
I know how tempting it is when you’re picking up fish food at the pet store and the evil puppy adoption people are there, breaking your heart with those little faces. Or, you know, when you’re volunteering at a refugee camp between filming movies and your life partner is hanging with the other kids and you see this orphan who just melts your heart? I know how it is. But really, don’t bring home any new family members without the okay of your pre-existing family member.
Getting tattoed
With their name, anywhere on your body. This needs no further explanation, does it?
Deleting the Tivo recordings
So you think he or she has watched the latest installment of Curb Your Enthusiasm? But you don’t know this for a fact? Don’t wipe out the Tivo because you’ll be on the fast track to WWIII before you can say Larry David.
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